being love

Being love: an experiential workshop for QTPOC

“What is needed is a realization that power without love is reckless and abusive and that love without power is sentimental and anemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice. Justice at its best is love correcting everything that stands against love.  –Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” –Audre Lorde

This is the time of year when “love” gets packaged, hyped and sold in stores. Sentimental, old stories that serve the dominant paradigm are dusted off to fill the shelves, media channels and feeds. Narratives that may not look at all like our experiences, like our lives. Ideas that don’t promote our healing and care, or even our existence.

Self-care has long been co-opted and marketed as a product for consumption. Being love is an opportunity to examine what love is on our own terms, in our own bodies and lived experiences. Through a series of guided meditations, writing exercises and discussion, we will explore love and self-compassion some of the roots of presence, resilience and equanimity.

Why? To honor ourselves, our own experiences and to re-center narratives on our own truths. Audre Lorde and Dr. King spell it out: we examine and honor our own experiences as a means of self-preservation and as a source of political warfare against violent, oppressive systems. To serve the cause of the love that liberates and fosters justice, not the one sold in stores.

Join us at metaDen Sunday February 10th 4-6pm. 52 Tompkins Avenue Brooklyn, NY. $10-20 suggested donation.

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more love

Just in time to help balance commercially-driven, hetero-normative Valentine’s day! I’m so happy to see The Open Photo Project highlighted recently by the BBC.

from the BBC:
“The Open Photo Project aims to reduce stigma about consensual non-monogamous relationships. In one recent study from the US 21% of the study’s participants reported having had some kind of non-monogamous relationship – but that number could be higher, owing to people not willing to share their personal circumstances.”

Here’s the BBC’s brief interview with Erika Kapin about the project.
More love for everyone!

love more

I’m incredibly grateful for the opportunity to work with Erika Kapin, helping out with The Open Photo Project

She says, “This project offers a look at the uniqueness of human relationships and is an invitation to re-examine preconceived notions of successful, sustainable, and healthy romantic love. Together, let us de-stigmatize ethically non-monogamous relationships by building understanding and respect. The aim is for more people to accept that while monogamy is a valid relationship choice, there is a wide spectrum of other equally valid choices that can be as varied as the human experience.”

I’m all about this.

Keep up with The Open Photo Project on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and tumblr.
Videos of interviews are posted on YouTube.

tell people they can fucking win

I saw a video online of Ed Sanders, Jack Kerouac and Lewis Yablonsky discussing the political moment happening in 1968 with William F. Buckley on Firing Line and I asked Ed Sanders if he still stands by the visions of love & light that he talked about in that interview. I really hoped he would say that even in the dire circumstances we find ourselves in now he still believes. His gracious response is included in issue #251.

Now available online, issue #251 was my last one as editor for the Project Newsletter.

Contents include a memorial for Ray DiPalma with some of his work and investigations into our current political moment, TELL PEOPLE THEY CAN FUCKING WIN, curated by Jen Hofer.

Art from Anastasio Wrobel and Hilary Mushkin and, of course, reviews: Velina Manolova on Christine Shan Shan Hou, Edmund Berrigan on Micah Ballard, Rijard Bergeron on Jared Stanley, Julia Johanne Tolo on Jennifer Firestone, Lara Mimosa Montes on Alexis Pauline Gumbs.

I hear the latest issue #252, put together by Marwa Helal, is just back from the printer and should be dropping soon. I’m so excited to see it.

The Firing Line episode with Ed Sanders is available here.

The Illuminator

Maybe it’s all the retrograde planets now making me remember old times. Or maybe the fact that Mark Read appeared to me in a dream, messing around with machines and wires. Whatever the reason, the Illuminator‘s early days have been on my mind & looking at this site I realized I never posted much about it.

Here’s a video of the first night we drove into Manhattan to Zuccotti Park fully expecting to get arrested. We had a lawyer with us on board, just in case, Lopi steering the ship, Danny & I repping the library, Brandon on documentation & Mark. Apologies if I’ve forgotten anyone else who was with us in the van, seems so long ago already.


N17 blew people’s minds. The light then really made me know that the city is ours, the streets are ours. “You are a part of a global uprising… Another world is possible.” It’s been almost five years, is there still any doubt? I’m so deeply grateful to have been part of this & share the video below for those who weren’t there.

other Illuminator/N17 coverage:
AlterNetBeautiful Trouble | Boing Boing | CNNThe Guardian | The New York Times |